And I've learned that, while it is important to say no, it is equally important to do so tactfully.

His line 'I need to practice being more assertive' is spot on actually

I agree, in general. But we can't very well encourage him to just go marching along when modern women can't tell the difference between assertiveness, aggressiveness, and outright violence.

That is a point, but my advice where more a generalization of turning down these one sided deals. It does not mean using the word 'No', that is an example

I even got the cops called of me for being rude a couple of months back 😃

We are in a cold war. We must always remember to arm ourselves and each other with the properly nuanced tools for the jobs at hand.

@Xychotic That I agree with

Even a casual example can send an inexperienced brother down a catastrophic path.

You have a point there, my advice were more in general, not doing a hard 'No'. That works too btw

It works when you have earned some modicum of respect. But it is still a heavy tool.

Women can't handle rejection. The best way to say no is to make them feel guilty for asking too much.

That’s that exam done.

So. How are we doing today, knee growths?

I'm doing well. It is a delight being able to have a carefully crafted conversation with a fellow man that doesn't devolve into ad hominem.

What does these level messages mean? I just leveled up for some reason

just chat activity

Ok, thanks

You gain xp for talking

@Xychotic. That is often the issue I face

What is tactful and what is being my true self.

In the exchange I pointer her to ask for someone else's resources or to hit up the library or other olace for public WIFI. I also told her that sonce its a replacement phone that she should activate the phone service she pays to get a network connection.

She wouldn't leave so I relented to turn my phone into a hot spot for a bit

I just cut it off about 1.5 hrs after the ask

I waa told she needed to send an email to her kids and to help prepare for her leaving this job.

Still, I see where I fell in making her problems to be my problems

This is a good time to use the phrase 'I would love to help you out, but I am really busy now'

I feel kinda stupid for not having thought of that too

Other than that you have it spot on already

Thanks, I think that phrase would have helped me out if I had inserted it and still retained my tact

@Jack Mehoff You practically have that tactfulness settles already

Using the phrase 'I am busy right now' is a very tactful way of saying 'No'

'I have to think about it' is useful too

Kinda leaves it open though, having to think about it

Yup. Never make a reason why you are busy either, you will end up having a lengthy discussion why what you are doing is more important

This goes for both males and females

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That is the point of the phrase 'I have to think about it'. You never get around to think about it, another way of saying 'No'

@Xychotic my dude. that was autistic af just sayin

he basically said just dont give in and say no. and your acting like he said. bitch slap her

and also if just saying "no" is gonna get you in trouble at yoru job. ***its time to find a new job***

Way to go @shadowlessnexus, I completely agree with you