Message from Isabella Locke-MT in Nice Respectable People Group #general

2018-12-12 10:54:43 UTC  

First labors are usually pretty long

2018-12-12 10:54:53 UTC  

23 oof

2018-12-12 10:54:55 UTC  

But then your body gets the hang of it

2018-12-12 10:55:14 UTC  

My mom's first (me) was a c-section, and her second was only 4 hours

2018-12-12 10:55:19 UTC  

she got off easy

2018-12-12 10:55:49 UTC  

When you have a wife and kids, you want to avoid c-section as much as possible

2018-12-12 10:56:38 UTC  

iirc scheduling c-sections was very en vouge in the 90s

2018-12-12 10:56:53 UTC  

because it let doctors schedule when their patients would give birth

2018-12-12 10:56:54 UTC  

C-sections will put you out longer. I was under the assumption that once you had one you could not have another baby delivered naturally.

2018-12-12 10:57:24 UTC  

Since you're cutting the uterus or wte

2018-12-12 10:57:28 UTC  

No, it's very possible to do a VBAC (vaginal birth after c-section)

2018-12-12 10:57:33 UTC  

But most doctors don't want to do it

2018-12-12 10:57:38 UTC  

and will fight you on it tooth and nail

2018-12-12 10:58:21 UTC  

I guess that's why they decided to discourage us from even getting a c-section in the first place

2018-12-12 10:58:56 UTC  

Yes, if at all possible, vaginal is better

2018-12-12 10:59:18 UTC  

c-sections dramatically increase the risk of placenta previa and placental abruption in later pregnancies

2018-12-12 11:00:11 UTC  

Placental abruption is where the placenta detaches from the uterus and your baby loses the ability to receive oxygen/nutrients

2018-12-12 11:01:07 UTC  

We lost our 3rd baby because the placenta partially separated from the uteran wall.

2018-12-12 11:01:19 UTC  

Aww, I'm sorry 😦

2018-12-12 11:01:50 UTC  

It's okay. It was 2014. It hit my wife much harder than me.

2018-12-12 11:02:17 UTC  

Yeah, we carry these little ones inside us for 9 months

2018-12-12 11:02:21 UTC  

It's a special connection

2018-12-12 11:03:01 UTC  

how many children do you have?

2018-12-12 11:03:44 UTC  

We have 3. First two are boys, 8 and 6, and a girl, 4

2018-12-12 11:04:20 UTC  

Funny, I'm actually getting surgery to undo my vasectomy

2018-12-12 11:04:34 UTC  

Why did you have one?

2018-12-12 11:04:56 UTC  

Yep, after our last child I was burned out.

2018-12-12 11:05:30 UTC  

I wish I didn't get it done but here we are

2018-12-12 11:05:41 UTC  

Nothing to do for it now

2018-12-12 11:05:54 UTC  

Except try to reverse it

2018-12-12 11:06:11 UTC  

Yep. I was lucky and our insurance will cover it.

2018-12-12 11:06:17 UTC  

That's good

2018-12-12 11:06:41 UTC  

It would be about $8,000 out of pocket to have the surgery

2018-12-12 11:07:34 UTC  

That is expensive. More expensive than my birth at the birth center. I decided to go with midwives instead of an OB/GYN because I didn't want them to pressure me into interventions I didn't want to have

2018-12-12 11:08:05 UTC  

The whole thing-prenatal, the birth and postpartum will be $5750

2018-12-12 11:08:45 UTC  

Crap that sounds a ton better than going through what me and my wife went through

2018-12-12 11:09:11 UTC  

I haven't had coffee so it's not my fault that sentence is terrible

2018-12-12 11:10:01 UTC  

btw, I don't know how you're managing without coffee or any caffeine.

2018-12-12 11:10:56 UTC  

I do have a little coffee a few times a week, usually 6-8 oz. It's safe to have up to 200 mg of caffeine

2018-12-12 11:11:13 UTC  

If you guys conceive again, I would look into the midwives in your area

2018-12-12 11:12:42 UTC  

I know she really wants to go to a midwife but it was pretty expensive at the time