Message from netgearblackhawk in Nice Respectable People Group #general
We have 3. First two are boys, 8 and 6, and a girl, 4
Funny, I'm actually getting surgery to undo my vasectomy
Why did you have one?
Yep, after our last child I was burned out.
I wish I didn't get it done but here we are
Nothing to do for it now
Except try to reverse it
Yep. I was lucky and our insurance will cover it.
It would be about $8,000 out of pocket to have the surgery
That is expensive. More expensive than my birth at the birth center. I decided to go with midwives instead of an OB/GYN because I didn't want them to pressure me into interventions I didn't want to have
The whole thing-prenatal, the birth and postpartum will be $5750
Crap that sounds a ton better than going through what me and my wife went through
I haven't had coffee so it's not my fault that sentence is terrible
btw, I don't know how you're managing without coffee or any caffeine.
I do have a little coffee a few times a week, usually 6-8 oz. It's safe to have up to 200 mg of caffeine
If you guys conceive again, I would look into the midwives in your area
I know she really wants to go to a midwife but it was pretty expensive at the time
I have heard so many stories of OB/GYNs blatantly disrespecting women's wishes that I don't ever want to birth at a hospital.
Imo, they treat pregnancy like a condition to be treated and not a natural process that women have been doing forever
Yeah, I think you're right. That's pretty messed up.
In hindsight, it was like that when my kids were born
My friend's sister had multiple miscarriages. I feel really bad for her because having kids is the one thing she wants more than anything else.
She finally managed to get to 7 months this time though so hopefully it works out.
Once you get past 3 months, the chances of miscarriage decrease dramatically
Miscarriages are heartbreaking 😰
Well I didn't expect to revisit bad memories in the morning lol
Lol it's fine. I'm making breakfast atm anyway
I've got to get my husband's lunch ready
Nothing is more awesome than having your lunch ready to go. Hate having to pack my own when I'm in a rush.
Yeah I usually get it ready for him, especially since I'm staying home. I really like doing it. I like making his coffee in the morning too but lately he's been getting up before me
Yeah, generally guys make the coffee, in my experience.
I don't know why but I've made coffee the majority of the time for my wife. Even when I didn't drink coffee. That's when we first started to live together.
@Isabella Locke-MT I was a stay at home dad for about 3 years so I was responsible for maintaining the house and kids in order. It's a job that you can't really "clock out"
Yeah that's true. But I think that's true for all parents. Once you have a little baby, there are really no sick days.
Even if you get a babysitter, there will always be the parent-mode in the back of your mind.
Definitely. Wondering if the baby is still okay, etc
Once you have kids, it's hard imagining life without them