think about yourself

that habit may not be easy to kill

instead of thinking about other people and talking about yourself

do the opposite

if you do choose the double down route, don't think you'll just stay as you are now

you'll get worse

of course "worse" may be a more successful person, who may even be well liked

that's the real choice here, true self vs. false self

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w7PZLxYs3x4

Joe was very successful in business. He bragged that his narcissism allowed him to be tough-minded and make the right decisions even when it might be unpopular with his colleagues. He brought the same tough-minded approach to being a husband and father.

this is you

wuzzat from

http://askdrcliff.com/archives/1353

Avoid the Four Horsemen – Learn how to stop Criticism, Defensiveness, Contempt, and Stonewalling.

you've got all 4 in big helpings

yes

the narcissist is stunted in that he doesn't have a clear emotional sense of the other person

like a kid

you can't blame a kid for doing some rude shit or whatever

they don't understand

anyone I behave narcissistically towards, I do not want to empathize with

this is rationalization, that should not be a choice

I decide first that I don't like them, then I stop viewing them as a person

yeah

I actually feel quite strongly and regularly do things like crying for patients on wards

sounds about right

I don't think I've shed a tear for a human being in my life

and yet I am the crazy narcissist

you're not crazy but yes

that's why I said it

I'm not a normal person, but I don't have a personality disorder

so you cannot simply use such stuff as evidence that you are okay or relatively okay

it is somewhat heartening, but I can't make out the twists and turns in your mind

that led to you crying for a patient on a ward

my instinct is to say it touched your true self, which is childish and hence vulnerable

so you teared up

but I don't know.

that is about right

I think if you were fully mature in yourself, you wouldn't cry either

this child stuff

it can sound like an insult