Message from @devolved

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2017-04-13 19:30:59 UTC  

I think you can do it @Deleted User 57835c2c there are people way worse off than you

2017-04-13 19:31:04 UTC  

I am not certain why what I keep locked up inside needs to change if I can deal with my life as is

2017-04-13 19:31:15 UTC  

then there is no helping you

2017-04-13 19:31:19 UTC  

epsecially since I basically see myself as using revolting tactics as a way to deal with revolting people/situations

2017-04-13 19:31:23 UTC  

I am rewarding like with like

2017-04-13 19:31:25 UTC  

when you make that decision that no, this isn't okay

2017-04-13 19:31:41 UTC  

then there can be some progress down the path I have vaguely lain out

2017-04-13 19:31:45 UTC  

it's your choice

2017-04-13 19:31:54 UTC  

stop thinking about other people

2017-04-13 19:31:57 UTC  

think about yourself

2017-04-13 19:32:11 UTC  

that habit may not be easy to kill

2017-04-13 19:32:21 UTC  

instead of thinking about other people and talking about yourself

2017-04-13 19:32:23 UTC  

do the opposite

2017-04-13 19:33:11 UTC  

if you do choose the double down route, don't think you'll just stay as you are now

2017-04-13 19:33:13 UTC  

you'll get worse

2017-04-13 19:33:31 UTC  

of course "worse" may be a more successful person, who may even be well liked

2017-04-13 19:33:48 UTC  

that's the real choice here, true self vs. false self

2017-04-13 19:34:36 UTC  

Joe was very successful in business. He bragged that his narcissism allowed him to be tough-minded and make the right decisions even when it might be unpopular with his colleagues. He brought the same tough-minded approach to being a husband and father.

2017-04-13 19:34:40 UTC  

this is you

2017-04-13 19:34:57 UTC  

wuzzat from

2017-04-13 19:35:49 UTC  

Avoid the Four Horsemen – Learn how to stop Criticism, Defensiveness, Contempt, and Stonewalling.

2017-04-13 19:35:57 UTC  

you've got all 4 in big helpings

2017-04-13 19:36:47 UTC  

yes

2017-04-13 19:36:47 UTC  

the narcissist is stunted in that he doesn't have a clear emotional sense of the other person

2017-04-13 19:36:54 UTC  

like a kid

2017-04-13 19:37:00 UTC  

you can't blame a kid for doing some rude shit or whatever

2017-04-13 19:37:04 UTC  

they don't understand

2017-04-13 19:37:05 UTC  

anyone I behave narcissistically towards, I do not want to empathize with

2017-04-13 19:37:25 UTC  

this is rationalization, that should not be a choice

2017-04-13 19:37:28 UTC  

I decide first that I don't like them, then I stop viewing them as a person

2017-04-13 19:37:40 UTC  

yeah

2017-04-13 19:37:46 UTC  

I actually feel quite strongly and regularly do things like crying for patients on wards

2017-04-13 19:37:47 UTC  

sounds about right

2017-04-13 19:38:06 UTC  

I don't think I've shed a tear for a human being in my life

2017-04-13 19:39:09 UTC  

and yet I am the crazy narcissist

2017-04-13 19:40:04 UTC  

you're not crazy but yes

2017-04-13 19:40:06 UTC  

that's why I said it

2017-04-13 19:40:16 UTC  

I'm not a normal person, but I don't have a personality disorder

2017-04-13 19:40:29 UTC  

so you cannot simply use such stuff as evidence that you are okay or relatively okay