Doing it for the wahmen and whatnot is only limited in how it can motivate you. What motivates me is larping around the gym, as if I were a soldier training to protect my family or children etc.

My number one advice for getting started on the gym, or if you fall out of the routine:

Just show up. 3-4 times a week.

Like, even if you don't do much, forming that habit removes some mental resistance. Even if you just walk on the treadmill for a bit, etc

Well my gym would be the garage

eventually, as you're showing up regularly, you'll get bored and perhaps even frustrated with your lackluster workout, and that walk turns into a jog

I know that sounds like obvious advice, but as an adult with a job and responsibility in an organization etc, it's easy to skip a day or two and suddenly you're off track and a whole week or two flies by

so that just helps overcome that intertia

inertia*

Well, still haha, even if it's your garage I think it applies.

Something I've never got to try that might be a luxury to you is putting a TV up with a treadmill, because you can get a good workout if you walk long enough for like an hour, just use that time to watch education videos etc

Can't exactly play RedIce on the TV at my university gym lol

Or lift weights. Variety is key, but it's easy to get bogged down in trying to change things up with the workout routine itself.

If you spent your money on weights and not a treadmill, it helps to be able to get out of the house to jog every now and again.

I like to partition the focus of my workouts up by seasons and such, where I focus on certain thing or two for strength like deadlifts, then on endurance and cardio, etc.

Another tip, obviously listening to music makes the workout go by better, but try to find the ideal genre or type. Surprisingly, although classical music doesn't cut it, I've found constantly blasting hyper-aggressive or badass music actually mentally exhausts me. Play some chiller more moderate stuff, like idk man the classic orgrimmar theme from WoW as an example of something that's engaging but not over the top, save that burst of inspiration for the PR's, sprints, and top of pyramid sets

I know you asked how to figure out new hobbies, but figured those were something important things to discuss since it all ties into the process of improving one's life

Yeah for sure.

Thanks by the way

So for example if I’d like to read more I should just go right for it. Like just brute force my interest into that wall? Just read for as long as possible even if it’s super boring and not enjoyable at all.

When it comes to hobbies, since you're already working out, I'd say to not be concerned with sports.

A good goal and sustainable balance IMO is to have one that's outdoors, (rock climbing, hiking, camping, kayaking, fishing, w/e, pick one to be GOOD/knowledgeable at, I know a lot of them are interrelated,) one where you craft something like some sort of DIY stuff involving tools, and an intellectual pursuit outside of the career. Once all the ducks in are in a row, habits in place, and this stuff's second nature, then try to incorporate a routine for keeping up to date and learning politics and stuff that can be distracting, things that you know for the sake of being a responsible citizen and all that jazz.

Unless you're really craving socialization, maybe swap a workout or outdoors with a group you play w/e sport with

I can’t really do any sort of crafting thing because I don’t have the space for it

Or the materials

Learning an instrument could substitute for either that or an 'intellectual pursuit' too i believe

As for the brute force thing, yeah there are going to be some things you've got to force yourself to do, but realistically don't expect to be forcing yourself on more than one or two pursuits at a time.

So like, it'll be a while before you get to that point in realityl

like getting the workout routine down, dieting, and picking up one hobby are going to have your willpower muscles exhausted enough

once those things become easy though, you move on to a new thing

Really the only problem is that I have no interest in anything other than video games.

Like nothing else is very fun to me aside from that

I like the false sense of struggle and competition I get from it.

This is going to sound silly, but would you enjoy playing a game like Farming Simulator, or Flying Simulator? There's even games for fixing cars, etc.

That could potentially help transition to something IRL

I have farming stimulator

based and redpilled

It never was very stimulating

darn haha

What about cooking? Do you do much, or enjoy that?

Yeah that’s fun

Well, there's no clear progression to that, but there are definitely some more interesting/technical books out there on the science of cooking and such, I know picking recipes for the sake of learning can be boring.

And just have fun with it or challenge yourself sometimes, be impromptu. A couple months ago I decided I should stop the frequent eating out I was doing, so pulled a bunch of random stuff like canned chicken, ramen noodles, and mixed it together using only intuition and no recipes, turned out decent

like getting hung up on formalities is a problem I have with cooking

or not having all ingredients

but f@ck it

Well, one option you may have is media editing. I don't want to pull a boomer on you and instead of recommending pursuing sports as a career, doing E-Sports. (maybe you're that good IDK you gotta be honest with yourself,)

Starting to create digital content of some sort

But hey like i said this takes time

for now, the next few months you could just make it a point to cook a solid meal every day and that'll keep you busy,

most people love free food, invite them over to cook for them

Because between transitioning off vidya, trying to pick up a book, diet, working out, getting good at cooking, you'll stay occupied for a while

what do you think about that?

@Trashboat I figure I've about spoken my piece now

Sometimes if the issue is only enjoying vidya, I believe a good remedy is to just go hiking or camping for a day or two, cook so it's not totally boring, and after simply spending enough time away from video games other things become more interesting

akin to how once someone cuts junk food, they can appreciate the nuance of others, quality in produce, etc

Anyways good luck dude, I've practically wrote a short essay here, gotta get started on my assignments haha

Yeah

Thanks a ton man.

I have more to go on now for sure.

One last bit of advice: Don't fumble with apps to keep you organized and all that until you're at a point where most of the stuff you're doing is productive, and you're having trouble managing it. Because just using the damn things can be a drag and chore lol

This was all from the perspective of someone who struggles with (a non-meme, genuine diagnosis of) ADD, if that helps you assess the legitimacy/relevancy of theadvice.

Yeah I talked to my dad and he said something like boxing or cooking too.

Reading 30 minutes before bed

All that jazz

Boxing or a martial art is a great idea to, it's very engaging when sparring with others or practicing technique alongside peers

So there ya go, try the video game stuff I mentioned, and focus on cooking and a martial art,

GLHF :^)

Thanks billion man

work on something with your hands! someone the other day was saying how that's helped his mind. try to get away from screens especially if you are at a computer for your job

I can't really do that

I don't have the money to buy a home gym and start working in the garage

Working with your hands could be as easy to set up as card tricks or whittling

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eMgJ_2MXI2g

One of the ways we need to be in control of the direction of our society is by running profitable businesses that provide value. Ann Coulter pointed out in her book, _Adios America_, that while the media focuses on immigrants from India as being the most successful, since they have the record for the most start-ups, it's actually Russians who are the most successful immigrants when you look at _profitable_ start-ups and other businesses.

Anyone can have a start-up. The question is, will it be successful?

Perhaps one advantage successful Russian immigrants in their 40s and older have is that they came from a country where you had to work extremely hard just to have a little.

You may have heard the statistic that some 90% of businesses fail within the first 5 years. But the statistic you don't hear is that most of the businesses that survive the first 5 years go on to do very well. And the main factor that determines the success of new companies is the experience and focus of the entrepreneur.

The lesson is this: Learn all you need to learn, and keep learning while you start and grow your business.

I’ve found most people aren’t willing to do the most important thing early on: run around and make sales.

My first startup, we just had to start cold emailing, speaking at events, and calling people to pick up our first customers. Traditional marketing wasn’t working at all. So we sold. But once we got those initial customers, the marketing started picking up.

We went from 0 to profitable doing a ton of things that won’t work at bigger scale.

Unfortunately people spend all their time doing things that don’t matter to avoid the uncomfortable reality of calling someone to ask them to buy your product.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bfhg8sWTJds

@ThisIsChris how difficult would it be to acquire these skills?

I would take a minimum of 3 years of Java EE with Spring

@Jacob sounds like you should get an internship at a startup to get some of those skills. A lot of that is definitely stuff you learn on the job

Thanks. It seems like some areas actually have a surprisingly high number of programming jobs with really low requirements.

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@apronandlace Very good article.

Goal setting can't just be about working to achieve a target. You have to become the person for whom hitting that target is possible.

Establishing thinking and behavioral patterns congruent with the identity of the person you need to become is the only way to improve.

Habits are key.