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2018-11-30 18:00:33 UTC

Looks good so far! By the way, if you do it as a word doc it might be easier and I can copy it directly across to the site, preserving all hyperlinks. Up to you if you want to.

2018-11-30 21:53:12 UTC

Btw, I have been thinking about this idea Feminists have that men dont get scared out at night. Anyone want to try andnmake a list of similar misconceptions about men?

2018-11-30 21:54:03 UTC

Men don't get sexist remarks made towards them.

2018-11-30 21:56:59 UTC

https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/a1apxa/after_a_lifetime_of_involvement_in_male_dominated/?utm_source=reddit-android

I saw this story and I was like wow. You've managed to be in an manly environment and not feel demeaned until NOW?

2018-11-30 21:58:18 UTC

I regularly have stupid things said to me in my sport or listen to the women at work say sexist bullshit

2018-11-30 22:11:57 UTC

Ditto when I was at uni.

2018-11-30 22:12:31 UTC

There was this one awful sow I could write a whole article about. :P

2018-11-30 22:31:47 UTC

Bearing in mind that all the people at my work are above me bar one guy who started Monday

2018-11-30 22:32:55 UTC

Guys being raped by women is an obvious one.

2018-12-01 11:05:50 UTC

Yep, that's a big one.

2018-12-01 11:44:48 UTC

@Men Are Human Actually, I did end up finding something useful in the Norway Study

2018-12-01 11:44:57 UTC

"Overall, conditional on the high-stakes central exit exams, boys outperform girls on the low-stakes national one-day tests. Thus, the hypothesis that girls perform relatively worse when stakes are high is not supported." -- This is relevant to some of the studies (like the Israel and France studies) that have different tests they use for the anonymized and non-anonymized grading

2018-12-01 11:45:15 UTC
2018-12-01 20:46:20 UTC

You are really putting a lot of thought into this and I really appreciate it @asparkofpyrokravte

2018-12-06 05:17:20 UTC

Oh yeah, I saw a couple of those reddit posts

2018-12-06 05:17:32 UTC

That really is rather worriying

2018-12-06 05:17:41 UTC

..

2018-12-06 06:04:25 UTC

Urk. that telegraph article is basically just a teaser for this: http://www.menandboyscoalition.org.uk/conference/

2018-12-06 06:04:41 UTC

but I can't find any information on what Cook says in the conference

2018-12-06 06:04:50 UTC

sigh

2018-12-06 07:41:16 UTC

..

2018-12-06 07:41:27 UTC

Alright, so I've got more or less all the material I want for the education article

2018-12-06 07:41:44 UTC

However, it is in need of being made somewhat more coherent, with a clear beginning and a clear goal. Mostly I've just written so as to cover the major points of boys' education issues as they relate to the school system, the things the school system has done about those issues, and a bit about the opposition to those issues and how those issues should be approached. When I put it like that it sounds cohesive

2018-12-06 07:46:29 UTC

But it isn't yet

2018-12-06 07:59:33 UTC

Draft 1

https://cdn.discordapp.com/attachments/512584940874104833/520147270700761108/Boys_Education.doc

2018-12-06 07:59:43 UTC

Hey, it worked

2018-12-06 07:59:50 UTC

So that's relatively just plain-text-with-links

2018-12-06 08:00:29 UTC

And you don't need to look at that one, I'll try to get some stuff done in the next couple days to make it more directed, but this way you (as in, anyone on discord) can see what is going on with it and comment if you like

2018-12-06 08:06:32 UTC

Probably the biggest error in argument (as opposed to in form) in the document right now is where I get around to talking about US govermental education policy (pre-university policy) which I don't have a good understanding of at all.

2018-12-06 11:12:18 UTC

Maybe there's someone here on the discord from the US you can ask? I think Jango is from the states. Alternatively, I'm sure posting a Reddit topic requesting some insight would get some replies

2018-12-06 11:30:14 UTC

I only really skimmed it, I'm 4 drinks in and will probably have a better look in the morning (didn't look at any of the links, lol), but I do get it, also I think I may have been missing a page at the front or did you just not really write an introduction? I can defiantly understand though, in highschool I was in the lowest English class and I was the only girl that was there, and I have a learning disability which made school horrible, teachers just cannot expect every student to be able to retain blocks of information on a board, my ADHD gave me trouble with english and my boyfriend who is Autistic had a similar problem with Math, he got really fucked by it too because people always assume that Autism means you are really good with math and science where he just isn't, he likes writing and he has lost jobs over people not being able to take him seriously, it makes me so angry.

2018-12-06 12:32:25 UTC

Would you like to write about him, or get him to tell us about it?

2018-12-06 12:33:13 UTC

I'm in a very similar situation, except for the dating you part. ;)

2018-12-06 12:44:09 UTC

He likes to keep himself clear for the most part from the MRA stuff, he used to be a major male feminist actually, I let him know the shit I get up to but I let him keep to himself if he doesnโ€™t want to get involved, I think that is fair.

2018-12-06 12:48:06 UTC

That's alright. Would you be interested in telling it instead, or keeping it private?

2018-12-06 12:48:31 UTC

I think it would go very well in part 2 of the school stories article

2018-12-06 12:53:30 UTC

Na, I donโ€™t think he would be comfortable with it, he is still quite defensive about feminists and a little conscious of MRAs, probably the closest we get to fights is usually over feminist things, I like to think he is much more centred since being with me and I guess being together stops us from both getting echo chambered, I do know that sex trafficking is a bit of a problem in the Netherlands that effects a lot more women and he was friends with a girl who was effected by it, so I donโ€™t try to change him, just correct his facts if he tries to spew something like rape culture or wage gap at me, lol

2018-12-06 13:01:45 UTC

He is a really nice person though, he cares a lot more about others then himself and that scares me because he has that personality type where people immediately try to take advantage of him, when we first starting to get together properly I had to explain to him that he had in fact been sexually assaulted which he didnโ€™t believe because it was a women who did it to him.

2018-12-06 13:04:43 UTC

Okay. I understand. I do tend to think that whenever we are told that women are the primary target of something it does end up being 50/50 in almost every circumstance, however.

2018-12-06 13:12:04 UTC

I had a look into it, I canโ€™t remember the exact numbers but it was like somewhere a little over 10% (think it might have been 14% from memory but I am probably wrong) boys, and it is mostly effecting middle eastern women who are trafficked through the Netherlands (because they donโ€™t enforce sex trafficking laws too well) and then out to the rest of Europe, and even though the way they market it is โ€œsave the girlsโ€ the goal is โ€œstop the sex traffickingโ€ so I donโ€™t have an issue with that at all.

2018-12-06 13:14:51 UTC

But he also knows that if he so much mentions wage gaps or women in education or rape myths I will go into fight mode. xD

2018-12-06 13:26:04 UTC

We are a strange couple but thankfully something is working because it has been almost 6 years now xD

2018-12-06 13:50:07 UTC

@Abbysol haha, nope, my introduction was basically just the first sentence, as my conclusion is basically just the last sentence of the second-to-last paragraph. I wrote this almost top to bottom and posted it as soon as I got something workable together. To be honest, I'm not yet sure what a softer introduction should be, partially because I'm not sure how...(didactic?) I want to be. I'm not sure if I ended up writing more of a beginners guide sort of thing or more of a topics in boys education sort of thing. What it is *not* is "why boys lag behind in education" because we don't really know the answer to that question and that is quite possibly more related to fatherlessness, boys being harder hit by not having a decent home environment, and that kind of thing. Rather it lends itself more to answering the question "Do school systems face challenges in dealing with boys? If so, what?" I guess. That wasn't really by intent, honestly.

2018-12-06 13:50:17 UTC

Actually, it better answers the question "What challenges do boys face dealing with schools?".

2018-12-06 13:51:13 UTC

I think that will probably end up being the approach I need to revise the article around. Then my plan is to add some questions to the beginning of the first paragraph as InsaneCatarpilla mentioned around that theme (probably changing or removing the first sentence) and call that an introduction. Or is there a better way to tie these ideas together in a neat bundle?

2018-12-06 13:57:12 UTC

I think asking what are the challenges boys face is a better angle to look at it from, because being able to identify the problems will inherently lead into find solutions, Iโ€™m not a good writer so I canโ€™t help much, but it was just a thing I noticed, just a short little primer at the start I think would help it flow a little better and help it to feel like a more natural read. ๐Ÿ˜ƒ

2018-12-06 14:12:49 UTC

For a while now, we have known that our boys have been struggling in education. Also, for a while now we have focused on improving our girls' performance in schools, and have been remarkably successful. Our attention now needs to be on preventing our boys' worsening ability to do well in school, but how do we achieve this? First, we must evaluate the reasons why our boys are not performing to the same standard...

2018-12-06 14:12:57 UTC

Perhaps something like that.

2018-12-07 19:45:23 UTC

I just want to say something.

2018-12-07 19:45:53 UTC

I was reading articles on the website and I felt the urge to share them, but I'm scared that it will ruin my career.

2018-12-07 19:47:11 UTC

Even finishing my studies would be hell on earth, because all the professors are feminists and left wing liberals

2018-12-07 19:47:18 UTC

So I have to self-sensor.

2018-12-07 20:41:09 UTC

Hold on dude, things are surely changing.

2018-12-08 11:40:08 UTC

@Thijs Peters#9845 Thank you for saying that, but please don't ruin your career! There are ways around it though. You could say something like "I was shocked by this, what do other people think?" And then maybe avoid replying to anyone?

2018-12-08 16:12:19 UTC

@Men Are Human we need to create a canned replies datbase

2018-12-08 16:13:39 UTC

Compile the best arguments to create easy replies to the most frequently asked questions.

2018-12-08 16:14:15 UTC

I think personalised replies are much more persuasive than someone spewed of a bot

2018-12-08 16:15:02 UTC

I mean comped citations stats and sources

2018-12-08 16:15:09 UTC

*compend

2018-12-08 16:15:27 UTC

Let's say someone asks

2018-12-08 16:15:54 UTC

Feminism is for men too.. Tell me reasons otherwise.

2018-12-08 16:18:06 UTC

Men are horribly privileged, tell me areas where they aren't.

2018-12-08 16:18:52 UTC

Women were oppressed throughout history and men are their oppressors

2018-12-08 16:21:21 UTC

Do you know many feminists who honestly look for answers? To them, they are rhetoricals, and they wouldn't ask them

2018-12-08 16:22:08 UTC

Still, even if they did... I think its better coming from you

2018-12-08 16:22:25 UTC

Surely you have a better way of explaining things than a robot?

2018-12-08 16:22:32 UTC

We need to be ready when they encounter such questions elsewhere on reddit or the wider internet.

2018-12-08 16:23:01 UTC

Yes, ready through our own thoughts and opinions. Not through a standardisation

2018-12-08 16:23:16 UTC

So that it needs minimal time and editing

2018-12-08 16:23:46 UTC

I'm talking about quick replies to quick questions

2018-12-08 16:23:53 UTC

But it will always need editing, one reply isn't gonna change peoples
' minds

2018-12-08 16:23:56 UTC

The most mundane

2018-12-08 16:24:39 UTC

What if I make a compilation of all places men are disadvantaged

2018-12-08 16:24:44 UTC

There is such thing as a quick reply, but most of the time there's more influence in actually doing so yourself

2018-12-08 16:25:01 UTC

Do you wanna persuede people or fob them off?

2018-12-08 16:25:04 UTC

It takes fucking lot of effort

2018-12-08 16:25:10 UTC

Ask yourself that question

2018-12-08 16:25:13 UTC

Yes it does

2018-12-08 16:25:23 UTC

Is it worth it?

2018-12-08 16:25:26 UTC

No

2018-12-08 16:25:55 UTC

The mrm had already answered the same questions a million times on the sub

2018-12-08 16:26:31 UTC

Are we talking to the same people here? Trust me, ill ban anyone I see as a feminist troll, you have my promise on that.

2018-12-08 16:26:59 UTC

What are you seeing here?

2018-12-08 16:27:17 UTC

Nothing as of yet. Care to share with me an alternate view?

2018-12-08 16:29:30 UTC

The quick takedown of feminist rhetoric will help us a lot especially on non feminist and mrm normal subs.

2018-12-08 16:29:53 UTC

I'm willing to host such a list on the site

2018-12-08 16:29:58 UTC

There are a lot of them in the wild and gullible people are eating it

2018-12-08 16:29:59 UTC

Takedown/=/ban... I'd rather disprove it first

2018-12-08 16:30:12 UTC

Which I will do :3

2018-12-08 16:30:52 UTC

Mate, we dint make the general policy on the MR subreddit.

2018-12-08 16:31:02 UTC

Goodmod does that

2018-12-08 16:31:11 UTC

We are responsible only for this chat

2018-12-08 16:31:56 UTC

@Men Are Human I think it would be better to create a new single purpose domain for it.

Like www.whyibecameanmra.com something like that.

2018-12-08 16:32:37 UTC

I'm personally hesitant to endorse further breakdown of our userbase

2018-12-08 16:33:09 UTC

Let's not run before we can walk.

2018-12-08 16:35:17 UTC

>Let's not run before we walk.

Your reasons for why are we not ready.

2018-12-08 16:36:00 UTC

The MRM is ready. This place is not. We are 'right' as it were. But it's not the right time.

2018-12-08 16:36:22 UTC

I'm not talking about the group

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